I was in a banking hall a few weeks ago getting some items off my to-do list. I had made my way along the queue and was finally being attended to by one of the bank’s tellers. Along comes this tall (at least 6 feet), big-boned (not fat), light-skinned, well-spoken (foné and all) lady who proceeded to start a conversation with the teller attending to me:
Teller: “Good afternoon ma.”
Lady: “Ah, I’m surprised you even recognized me.”
Teller: “Of course ma.” (smiling)
Lady: (handing him her cheque book) “Please copy the number. That is what you will use for the transfer.”
Teller: “Ok ma.”
Lady: “Thanks hun.”
After copying the number as the lady had requested,
Teller: “Excuse me ma, you will need to fill this form.”
At this point, another male staff member of the bank happens to walk by.
Lady: “Excuse me, may I borrow your pen?”
Other Bank Staff: “Sure.”
Lady: “Thanks darling.”
Other Bank Staff: (looks at her quizzically, then smiles)
In case you’re wondering, I wasn’t being kept waiting unduly, as my transactions’ processes required a bit of a wait, so I didn’t need to tell the sister off for attempting to jump the queue, hee hee.
I felt a bit uncomfortable on behalf of Teller and Other Bank Staff though – here were grown men, being referred to as “hun” and “darling” by a woman who it seemed like Other Bank Staff didn’t know and had never met before and Teller probably only knew professionally. I personally think such endearments should be reserved for those who are close and in the same age group, and maybe younger people; it seemed so out-of-place in a professional setting.
So, are there inappropriate times / ways to use endearments? Or is it just me?